In the BDSM culture, femdom refers to a dom/sub relationship where the dominating partner is female. When femdom comes to mind, many people get an image of gender-role reversal, in which the submissive is male. That’s often the case in femdom relationships, but the submissive partner can be female as well. Women find femdom to be an attractive role for a plethora of reasons; the opportunity to explore complete power over another human being can be intoxicating for anyone and in terms of sexuality, women traditionally have been subservient to their husbands and lovers. The role-reversal has a powerful allure and can be an irresistible turn-on.
The nomenclature in a femdom relationship reflects the dominant role of the woman. Such women are typically referred to as a domme or dominatrix, and she might insist on being addressed as Mistress by her slave or slaves. Titles are important—the sub is expected to convey the proper obeisance and respect to his dominatrix, and to omit her proper honorific is to forget one’s place.
What is femdom?
Femdom can play out in isolated activities—a couple who work in light bondage or mild spanking into their sensual lives might have a routine where the woman is the one doling out the punishment. It can also represent a 24/7 commitment in which the dom/sub relationship is strictly observed between the two partners. Femdom might manifest itself in a relationship where the domme’s partner is utterly subservient to her in every aspect of his or her life. In more serious femdom relationships, activities might be more intense than casual BDSM devotees engage in. Face sitting, cock and ball torture, forced feminization, and other forms of humiliation and/or torture might be part and parcel of the relationship between a domme and her sub.
Femdom can be an exhilarating, liberating experience both for the domme and the sub that grovels before her. Receiving discipline from a domme can be richly fulfilling to a sub, filling their need to utterly surrender to another. Femdom’s rewards are many and they extend to both partners in the relationship.
