Female sexual dominance is one of the most deeply satisfying sensual experiences a couple can have. The sweet surrender that a man offers to his girlfriend in perfect love and trust is rewarded with pleasures and delights that only the truly sexually adventurous are privileged to experience, and the couple engaging in femdom play builds a trust and intimacy that few couples ever manage to attain.

Knowing all this, you’re undoubtedly eager to introduce the woman you love to the joys of femdom, but you’re not sure how to bring up the subject with her. If she’s never been exposed to femdom or has a uninformed negative view of femdom as something weird and creepy, it can take finesse and patience to explain to her what femdom’s really all about. The important thing is to be forthright about your desire to fulfill your femdom fantasies while also being considerate and sensitive toward her feelings.

Femdom may seem like strange territory to her, but if you explain to her that it’s a normal practice that many couples pursue, she’ll be receptive to having a discussion about femdom. It’s important to present femdom to her in the positive light that it deserves. Tell her how empowering discovering femdom will be for her. Take her hands in yours and tell her that she’s the lady you love and trust unreservedly and she’s the only one you could ever surrender your body, your soul, and your heart to. Tell her that it’s that surrender that femdom’s all about, a loving capitulation that’s as emotionally fulfilling as it is electrifyingly erotic.

When you frame it in terms of love and trust, she’ll have an easier time understanding the appeal of femdom, and she’ll be more likely to want to try this experience. Don’t pressure her—let your journey into femdom proceed at an easy, unforced pace. Not only will be eager to embrace your femdom fantasies, she’ll introduce her own into your femdom play, making femdom a high point of your sensual lives.